I recently took one of those tests on Facebook...you know the kind...Can we guess your real age? Can we guess your job? What color describes your personality?
I don't even remember what the test was about because I ended up signing up for a dating service. There was an ad at the top of the page that I didn't thoroughly read. I only saw Men and Women. I thought I was supposed to choose which one I was for the sake of the test. I chose Women, since that is the category that best describes me.
I was instantly shown some very un-sexy men in my age category. I would later find out that it was an app that I downloaded, and with that download, I allowed this site to have access to my Facebook information. Scary. Very scary. In fact, I sort of freaked out. I was suddenly a happily married woman trolling Facebook for the scum of the earth to have an affair with. Help!
It got worse. My e-mail inbox was flooded (okay, so a light trickle; I'm not that desirable) with emails from desperate and lonely people who sent me an "ice-breaker," a question about myself to start the conversation. Oh my! I didn't even open them. I continued to freak out. What have I done? And how do I undo it?
I finally figured out that it was an app and all I had to do was uninstall it and everything went away. No more ice-breaker questions. No more emails. No more men who don't care what they look like thinking that they might be attractive to a happily married woman who writes a Christian blog and might decide to talk about them on said blog.
But this little slip of the finger taught me something valuable:
Life is not a series of apps that we can just undo to make undesirable things go away.
We often make mistakes, and we have to deal with them. We have to suffer the consequences of our impetuous decisions, our impulsive purchases, our immature words and actions.
I was lucky that this was an easy fix. But what if I wasn't happily married? What if I was lonely? What if I was "just curious?" What if the man who popped up on my screen looked like George Clooney...or WAS George Clooney? Isn't that how sin begins? Temptation. Oh, I'm just going to look; there's no harm in that. Oh, it's just this one time. I only cheated a little.
You can't sin "just a little bit." You either don't give in to temptation or you do. And if you do, you've sinned.
The good news is that God always forgives us when we repent. Always.
If we confess our sins he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness (I John 1:9)
The bad news is that we often leave a mess behind us. A mess that God won't clean up for us. He might supply us with the means, and he might send folks to come alongside and encourage us and support us, but he won't do it for us. Ironically, that's also good news.
Anyone who is a parent understands the importance of letting their child clean up his or her own mess. If we do it for them, they'll never learn. God does the same for us.
God forgives our sins, but he allows us to be uncomfortable in our consequences. It's the only way we'll learn.
We can't just uninstall our mistakes. We can't just turn our beliefs off and on, like we do our computer, and hope that temptation doesn't pop up again each time we reboot. And unfortunately, the beauty of editing something written doesn't happen in real life. We can't edit what we say or do once it's said or done (Oh, how I wish I could...). We can't always undo our actions.
Hopefully this helps us think twice about our actions. In a lightning fast world, it's easy to get caught up in "gimme it now." But as my accidental dating life can attest to, "now" is not always the best option.
(Maybe one of these days I'll tell you about the time I answered an ad on Craig's List for "adult actors" and talked to the guy for 5 minutes before I realized I was pre-auditioning for porn. True story. Like I said, "Think!")
Blessings Along the Path,
Sharing this post with Deb at Blessing Counters, Rosilind with A Little R&R, Janis at Sunday Stillness, Barbie at the Weekend Brew, Terri at Good Morning Monday, Joan at Sharing His Beauty, Laura at Playdates With God and Naomi at Monday Musings
Friday, November 28, 2014
My Accidental Dating Life
I'm a person of creativity. I've always loved to entertain people, and especially, to make them laugh. I don't mind being the guinea pig, the one who is singled out to break the ice. I write what you think but don't want to admit. I'm a word nerd and a grammar geek. I love musical theatre, hiking, and worshipping my Lord, my King-the King of Glory. It's my desire to bring hope and healing to hurting individuals-or perhaps just to provoke thought, to give an encouraging word to get you through the day-through everyday situations and insights into God's Word.