Yesterday I mentioned a new series that I started watching called, "Secrets and Lies."
For those of you who missed my last blog, I'll recap by saying that the show is a series about a neighborhood being torn apart by the unsolved murder of the young son of one of the neighbors. Ben, the man who finds him, is (we believe) falsely accused of the murder, and he sets out to find the real murderer. In so doing, he ends up jumping to conclusions, accusing people publicly, and alienating his friends.
In the last episode, Ben is talking to the detective, played by Juliette Lewis. He is sure that his latest suspect is guilty of something, and tells the detective, "He's lying!"
Is that true?
Do you lie?
Have you ever lied?
I attempted to collect Unemployment for the last month or so, due to seasonal layoffs. For those of you who don't know, I work for my son's landscaping company, and another company that he is part owner of (two part time jobs which comprise a full time day).
I was denied benefits for the landscape company because I checked "Yes" in the box that asked, "Are you related to the owner?"
The response when I told people?
"Why did you say you were related? You have a different last name! They'd never know!"
But I'd know. And God would know.
I don't lie well.
At the end of the telephone interview I had (because of the box I'd checked), the claims examiner told me, "You can go online and file for your benefits on Sunday."
Well, that particular Sunday, I would be in Puerto Rico. Since this was my first time at all this, I wasn't sure how to do that if I would be away, so I blurted out, "I'll be on vacation."
"Then you'll be ineligible for benefits while you're away, since you'll be unavailable for work," she informed me. "You'll need to call us when you return, to tell us that you're back"
The response when I told people?
"Why did you tell her that? You should have just had someone else file the claim for you, or did it when you got back."
In other words, lie again.
"But that's wrong."
"No, it's not. Not really."
Yes...really. It's wrong. Not to mention, against the law.
Some people lie very easily. Others, like me, have never lied well.
The trouble with not lying is that not everyone is in the same camp.
People don't understand why you won't lie. After all...
I have found it very difficult to be different. I've given up trying to explain why I won't do what everyone else does. I allow myself to be ridiculed and the brunt of the joke. I'm okay with that.
Now, I'm not perfect. Yes, I have lied.
That's actually true.
We lie to avoid hurting someone's feelings.
We lie to avoid punishment.
We lie to avoid blame.
We lie to avoid responsibility.
We lie to avoid confrontation.
We lie to avoid exposing a secret.
We lie to avoid truth.
Seems to me that lying is a sin of avoidance.
If I had just checked "No" in that box that asked if I was related, I could have avoided the telephone interview that would eventually determine my denial of benefits.
We also lie to get.
If I'd lied on my application for benefits, I would have received my full benefits (I would have also committed a crime).
It's also a sin of convenience.
If I had just kept my mouth shut during that interview, I could have continued to claim my benefits with no interruption, and avoided yet another phone call and another interview.
But I would have known that I'd lied.
Maybe that doesn't matter for some people. But it matters to me, because I answer to a Higher Authority than the State of New Jersey.
Lying always seems to catch up with us eventually. And when it does, it has worse consequences than what we would have suffered if we'd just told the truth.
The bottom line for someone who is a follower of Christ is this:
The Lord detests lying lips, but delights in those who tell the truth (Proverbs 12:22).
The consequences of lying are great because they are the consequences of sin. Telling the truth may not always reap a reward, but it always brings delight to our Father. And that alone is enough of a blessing.
Telling the truth certainly didn't cause me to reap a reward; in fact, it was the opposite. I lost out on benefits that I still believe I should have received, but there are apparently laws regarding a parent working for a child.
I could focus on that, or I could dwell on the peace that I have in knowing that I told the truth, and my Father delights in that.
What about you? What are your thoughts on lying? Has telling a lie ever gotten you into greater trouble? Has choosing truth over a lie caused you to lose a reward but reap a blessing? Tell me about it in the comments section below!
Blessings Along the Path,
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Wednesday, March 18, 2015
I'm a person of creativity. I've always loved to entertain people, and especially, to make them laugh. I don't mind being the guinea pig, the one who is singled out to break the ice. I write what you think but don't want to admit. I'm a word nerd and a grammar geek. I love musical theatre, hiking, and worshipping my Lord, my King-the King of Glory. It's my desire to bring hope and healing to hurting individuals-or perhaps just to provoke thought, to give an encouraging word to get you through the day-through everyday situations and insights into God's Word.