I know I said I was taking a break, but I just HAD to share this story with you, because of the irony.
In case you missed that post, or have forgotten, I'll give your the condensed version.
Two weekends ago, the Hubs and I took a hike. I decided that there was an easier, more direct route to the park than the directions the Hubster had printed out, so I went that way...only it wasn't easier and it wasn't more direct, and we ended up lost and arguing.
|An actual sign on a trail in Puerto Rico|
We were very excited to begin, and I pretty much left the planning up to Brian. He's the map man. Since the AT is a continuous trail, each section we hike would be a two-car trip. One car is parked at the end, then we both travel in the other car to the beginning.
Things were going along just fine the morning of the hike. After a healthy and filling breakfast, we set out. Only I didn't know where we were going, so I asked him.
"Just follow me," he said.
"Well, what if we get separated? Shouldn't I at least know where I'm going?"
"Sure," he replied. "I'll be taking 287 to 23 North..."
He rattled off a whole bunch more directions. But I'm not auditory, so after "Route 23," I was lost.
"Huh?" I said.
"Just put Waywayanda State Park in your gps."
I told my phone to find directions to...yeah, that weird place with the Indian name. It tried to give me directions to Way, way yonder...which could be anywhere, quite frankly. So I typed it in.
"Hey, guess what?" I said to the Hubster.
"It's telling me to go the same way I went last time."
I just grinned.
The Hubs didn't find it so amusing. He started to balk, and I cut him off.
"Don't worry, I learned my lesson. I'll go your way."
Well, don't you know that little Google lady tried to get me to turn left at EVERY side street along the way in order to go that "other way."
She was clearly taunting me!
When we got stuck in traffic, I got antsy. Why was there so much traffic at 8:00 am on a Saturday? If we went that "other way"...MY way, we wouldn't be stuck in this traffic and going through all these lights.
The whole way, I thought, My way would've been quicker. My way would've avoided all this traffic.
My way...my way...my way...I was still at it! I had most definitely NOT learned my lesson!
And right there in my car, I had my first epiphany of the day:
I didn't like not being in control.
I wanted my husband to take charge, but I still wanted to have control. It doesn't work that way. I can't have both!
If I let him take charge, I have to let him have control too. When I attempt to take that away from him, I am telling him things like,
"You're not doing it right. I don't trust you. You're not good enough."
"You're not man enough...You're not enough." And that is a horrible message to send to your husband.
That was an ugly epiphany.
When we got to Waywayanda State Park, which really did seem like it was way, way yonder, I had my second epiphany. It wasn't as ugly, nor nearly as complex. It was simply this:
We got here, didn't we?
|The Hubbles at the starting point (Abram S. Hewitt State Forest) |
looking for the blue trail marker
(which was on a tree higher up, hidden).
The blue trail (which was about 1.25 miles...straight up!)
would eventually bring us to our beloved AT
|"Allowing" my husband to lead down the rock scramble...our first obstacle...|
|From the other side. It was only about 6', |
but from above it looked more ominous.
It may not have been the way I wanted, but we got here all the same. It doesn't matter how or what route we took. We got here and that's really all that matters. It doesn't always have to be my way, and I don't always have to make a big deal about it.
Why can't I just let people be who they are?
I learn an awful lot on these hikes (often before they even start)! I have a feeling I'm in for some serious summer lessons! I'll be sure to keep you posted with tales from the trails.
Blessings Along Your Trails,
If you have time, please watch Frank Sinatra, as he sings my (former) theme song...My Way
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