Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Sadness: A Surprising Friend of Joy

We all have a past. We've all experienced hardships, trials, and relationships that we'd rather not revisit or even remember. But we didn't endure the hurt, the pain, and the sadness for nothing. 

I think it's necessary to hold on to just a piece of that sadness in order to experience true joy. 

Because how would we know the joy if we didn't know the pain? How would we understand happiness if we didn't know sorrow? How would we experience the love of Christ if we didn't know the pain and sting of rejection?

This summer I went to see a brilliant Pixar movie called Inside Out, where a young girl's core emotions (Joy, Sadness, Anger, Fear and Disgust) are personified. Sadness is a constant downer, and Joy works real hard not to let her be in control. Everything she touches seems to freeze or die or break.

When Riley moves to a new city, and things on the outside start affecting her on the inside and life becomes more than she can handle, she ends up shutting down emotionally. The control board in "Headquarters" freezes up. It simply won't work. 

That is, until Sadness touches it. A simple touch of Sadness causes Riley to break down in her father's arms, and she cries and cries and cries. Let me tell you, I felt sort of idiotic sitting in a kid's movie crying over Pixar people! But it was so profound!
Joy discovers that the memories she has of certain events are vastly different from the memories that Sadness has. Sadness remembers the circumstances that led to Riley's being sad; Joy only remembers the moments after that sadness. She doesn't remember the sadness because that's not who she is. But it is what led to the joy.

Together, they discover that Sadness is a necessary part of living. And Joy learns to share moments of Riley's life with Sadness. Life is never complete joy.

If you haven't seen this movie...oh my it! Now! You'll love it (except that I just ruined it by telling you the whole story)!

Meanwhile, remember this:

Sadness is not a "bad" or "wrong" emotion. Sadness is necessary to healing and a prerequisite to Joy!

Joy can only be experienced by knowing the Sadness that preceded it.

If you're dwelling in the land of Sadness right now...take heart. 

Weeping may endure for a night, but Joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5).

Song of the Day:  Darrell Evans' Trading My Sorrows

Blessings Along the Path,

Don't forget that I'm giving away free books! THREE winners can choose a book from my list (click here to access). All you have to do is comment-on here, by email or on Facebook! I'll keep the giveaway open till the end of the month.

Fight Back With Joy: Celebrate More. Regret Less. Stare Down Your Greatest Fears (Margaret Feinberg)

Made to Crave: Satisfying Your Deepest Desire With God, Not Food (Lysa TerKeurst)

Power Thoughts: 12 Strategies to Win the Battle of the Mind (Joyce Meyer)

Audacious (Beth Moore)

Making Good Habits, Breaking Bad Habits: 14 New Behaviors That Will Energize Your Life (Joyce Meyer)

Planted: Sit, Stand, and Walk With Jesus--a 10-week Bible study (Annie Pajcic)--This is the Bible study I'm currently doing that I've referred to several times in this series.

Search for Significance: Seeing Your True Worth Through God's Eyes (Robert McGee)--This book changed my life many years ago.

God is Able (Priscilla Shirer)

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  1. Oh, I love your post and totally laughed at your recommendation to watch a movie you just totally told the plot to! But, hey, you didn't tell EVERY detail of it! Perspective viewers can still really enjoy it :-) We finally watched it last week and I love that message, no matter how old we are, that Joy actually needs Sadness to be fully experienced. One really can't exist without the other.

    1. Amanda, I realized that as I was writing, but I liked what I was writing too much to care haha! Thanks for popping over!